I have an addiction that is tearing my family apart! Not drugs, Not Alcohol, Not Pills! Where do I find help?
No matter how many times i tell myself to think of my family and the fact that I am losing them, I still do it. It tears me apart that now I am a liar to my family because I cant control stupid impulses. Where do I find help? Can I find help?I lost my family or am very very close, please can anyone help?
Okay so apparently that was the entirely wrong way to ask my question. I have an issue with talking to different women about absolutely nothing at all. I work graveyards, get bored, go online on my phone and talk to random women. But now thinking of what I just wrote I believe I answered my own question. But who is to say that getting rid of my web based phone will help. What is the root of this issue? I have told my Wife I will stop but i cant. I get bored and it happens again. Now as I said I am losing my wife and daughter over this. I honestly dont understand what the attraction or pull is. It’s killing me and hurting her very very much.
Steven D posted: 12 Mar at 6:51 am
If it’s not what’s listed then it must be something . Just try to be more discrete. Talk to a psychiatrist.
O U812 posted: 12 Mar at 7:08 am
u’d have to go to a treatment center dude, with the info u gave all I can say is mental health clinic
Rufus posted: 12 Mar at 7:48 am
1st look at you diet are you drinking pop candy high carbs fast food if so stop go to soups meat vegies fruit yeh you have heard it before do it then make a plan the night before of what good deeds you will do the next day whatever and however small make that plan bigger and bigger as time goes on you need to learn how to be a human everything we do affects your family and friends in many ways we cannot measure keep focused on whats important.
Nadijah C posted: 12 Mar at 8:38 am
It is completely and utterly a bad way to ask a question like this when no one knows what you are talking about. How is someoen supposed to give you accurate responses if you don’t be more specific?
BethJ posted: 12 Mar at 9:01 am
Go to your local mental health department and either begin talking with someone there, or get a referral to a more specialized facility. With any addiction, the first step to breaking it is to admit you have it. You have done that. With the things you named, there are only a few left, and since you are having trouble finding information that will help you and refer you, I believe I know what your problem is. And I am not going to say it, nor do you have to. The answer will be the same in any case. Now that you know you have a problem and have admitted it, (and it is hard to write it out as you did here, even if you did not name it,) the next step is to go and talk with someone who can help you. It would be wonderful if they had a magic wand or pill or anything to cure addiction, but they do not. With any addiction, the rules are the same, ONE DAY AT A TIME.
Once you go for help, then, when ready, you can bring your family into the picture. There are two things to remember here with regard to your family. What you have done with this addiction has hurt them deeply, but if they are still there, they care enough to stand by you while you get help. If they have stood by you when you were not getting help, I believe they will be there while you are. But you have to be open and honest with them. The second thing to remember is that, regardless of what has happened in the past or will happen in the future, your loved one is coming from the hear and now. You will not be able to predict nor control the way they act concerning this. And you cannot change yourself for anyone but you. In other words, if you are seeking help to save your family only, it is not going to work. You have to do it because you know you have a problem that is controlling your life and you want to take control back.
With that in mind, and from what I have read in your question, you need to get to you local mental health YESTERDAY. With addictions, a favorite word is “tomorrow.” Most addicts are always ready to get help “tomorrow.” And tomorrow never comes. Thus, that word cannot be in your vocabulary and the next step, now that you have admitted the problem, is to think about today. I said get help “yesterday” in order to say this is serious and cannot wait. But I also think you know that. With any addiction, today is your only worry and your only chance. Yesterday is gone and you cannot change one thing about it. Only a qualified therapist or psychiatrist can help you and your family deal with the painful memories. And they must be dealt with eventually, but for now, you have to worry about what you can change and what you can do and all of that lies within today. If you look ahead to tomorrow, you will not see what is right in front of your face.
So, go NOW, do not delay and do not use excuses. You can always find an excuse to delay and to wait. And with addiction, there are tons of them. But you have only one reason to go now and stop everything else. And that reason is your life.One more tomorrow may be too late for you. So do it today and then live each day as it comes.
With all addictions, if your family members are interested, there are always support groups available to help them as well. Addiction is the cruelest kind of abuse to those you love. They are rendered totally helpless. There are shelters to protect against physical violence, but there are no shelters for those you love who are watching your life fall apart before their eyes. Their only option is to walk away and not look back. They have not done that yet. GO NOW. GET OFF THE COMPUTER AND GET TO YOUR LOCAL MENTAL HEALTH. Walk in the door and to the reception desk and say: I HAVE A PROBLEM. I NEED HELP.
Good Luck and May God Protect and Guide you. This addiction is truly a demon. It is time to exorcise it.
I told you that you did not have to name it. This is a growing addiction and the advice is the same. As I told you, they have stuck by you when you were not getting help, they will stand by you now. Make no mistake, this is the same as any other addiction. And with the access being so easy to these sites, at one time the major issue with this was the cell phone. Now the internet is out there and this is something that you need to address. As I said, the advice stands. Good Luck, but you are going to need some one on one help with this. The root of the issue is the same with any addiction and it does not mean you are a bad person. The pull is the uinknown, and the ability to say anything without inhibition. The talk may not even turn to sex, but it is hurting you and you have to stop for you. And I will almost bet, a counsellor would advise some of the same things Angelwolf advised. But the first step is to get there. You have said you are pulled to it, so the advise stands; it is an addiction.
AngelWolf 13 posted: 12 Mar at 9:19 am
Listen to Beth…she spoke volumes for all of us. I think I know what you are referring to….There is hope and a solution for every addiction. It simply takes the desire to change, and with proper guidance, you will overcome this…..I know you are a thoughtful person; I read your previous answer to another poster and I see that you are insightful.. So, go and call and we will all say prayers for you. Angel Wolf 13