By: Abigail

Abigail — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 02:44:42 +0000

I am so sorry to hear this. To me it sounds as if your father’s death is the cause of all this worry and thoughts. Seeing anybody dead and killed in such a way can be life scarring and painful. It will always leave a scar in our hearts and mind. Acknowledging you have issues is the first step and i congratulate you and admire your courage. It is not just a story of tragedy and despair, it is a story of strength and courage. You are not a lesser person if you need help or you feel like this. Giving up on religion is a way of coping, but I always find faith in it for some reason. I never judge anybody in grief, your mom seems to have blocked it out as her way of coping and it sounds as if you just need to let it out and talk to somebody about it. What would your father want you to do? would he want you to be sad about him or would he want you to regain hope and faith in life. What your father did is not your fault. It sounds he had greater issues at work. It annoys me that people say ******* is for the weak. For a person to take their own life is tragic and against the laws of nature but for someone to do this, means they have lost all hope/ Would you want to lose all hope like your father did? Take baby steps. Each day think of one thing you have to be thankful for. Increase it to two the second day until you are used to thinking this way. Find joy in nature. Go somewhere beautiful and quiet and reflect on nature. Tragedy strikes everybody at some point, but few have it to the extent you have it. You are a very brave person who perhaps need to rebuildyour life and find joy and happiness. I went through much trauma. I decided to enrol in college and do counselling. Not only did I learn how to help myself and it helped me with my own issues, I am now helping others. You can do it. Good luck

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By: Abigail