my friend is comming out of rehab, for alcohol, and im worried about her?
shes someone i care about A LOT, were both only 17, and she has a really bad addiction to alcohol. shes been in rehab for abour a month because she got a dui.
on top of this dui she has had 3 hit and runs, and a breathalizer in her car.
she got in a bad accident and could have died, so the state sent her to rehab.
im not sure if shes planning on drinking when she gets out. she cant drive anymore. she gets WAY out of controll when she drinks and blacks things out. like cheating on her BF and yelling at her friends.
im having a baby in april so when we hang out im not going to be doing any drinking or anything, [not lke i did it all the time to begin with] so i can watch our for her.
how can i help her? im scared that shes going to come out of rehab and start drinking and smokeing right away and kill her self. im really scared for her life. i love her so much and i dont know how i can help her.
i dont want to tell her she cant do stuff, because i want her to be able to come to me and talk.
and im not talking about her behind her back! never once did i say anything rude! in fact i said how much i care for her and that i am worried. sooo get it right.
ELLE posted: 22 Jul at 7:00 am
Did she ask you for HELP?
afflict1on posted: 22 Jul at 7:25 am
you guys sound like some winners! She’s in rehab and you’re prego – good way to start your life. Good luck.
тhе βΘn∃hεαd (HēåŦh∃η) posted: 22 Jul at 8:03 am
Just keep her away from bars,and try to encourage her to stay sober.
Remind her that she means a lot to you and that you care about her dearly.
Anything that may trigger her addiction(that you know of)should be avoided,and be there for her when she needs someone to talk to.
brut8888 posted: 22 Jul at 8:10 am
i was in similar situation, she has to keep herself occupied with otherthings and not hang out with the old crew, unless they are down for doing productive and healthy things..she really has to want it for herself though thats the biggest thing
eclipse posted: 22 Jul at 9:08 am
stop making ridicule of her behind her back.
shut up and let God help her. her only real true friend is God and she knows this as you pretend to care and then talk about her to other people.
Lena posted: 22 Jul at 9:13 am
Just be her safe haven let her know your concerns so she knows your in her corner encourage her to stay clean she’ll pull through with a good friend like you
best of luck!
kiwigirl_1997 posted: 22 Jul at 9:29 am
if your with her take all drinks and make sure she dosnt have any drinks at her house.help her through the proccess and it will get better
hope i helped
kiwigirl_1997
barrymcdickener posted: 22 Jul at 9:51 am
People in this situation suffer a dual burden. Not only do they have a substance abuse problem, but it also robs them of the metacognitive ability to realize it. The only thing you can do is express how much you care for her, and offer some non alcoholic activities as alternative to drinking. AA and interventions don’t really work unless the person is willing and has a desire to quit drinking. Basically, they’ll have to be totally disgusted by their behavior in order to even reach that point.
Sassy posted: 22 Jul at 10:14 am
You can only do so much for your friend. Your friend is going to have to want to quit. Rehab was probably good for her to do especially if she has had all those problems. Typically persons who abuse alcohol will venture into drugs – as they are looking for anything to give them the “quick” high. If her rehab was structured properly, she should be on her way of knowing how to get out of the rut, but it is up to her to actually do it. She needs to stay away from anyone who is drinking. You state that you do not drink; however, she must have others whom do as she is not even old enough to purchase her own drinks. She needs to stay away from those people. She needs to find a new group of friends who do not drink or expect her to drink to have a good time. Her activities need to change too. She will need to find herself doing things that are fun and do not require alcohol like rollerskating, or movies.
The bottomline is that she has to want to do it. No one can do it for her.
I hate to say it but at some point she has to hit bottom – and realize she needs to stop if she wants to make it back up. Sounds like she has already hit bottom, now you can assist her to get back up by just being their to support her needs. Listen to her and DO NOT let her tell you that she is going back to drinking. Some people can be social drinkers and just have one or two drinks – others cannot control themselves and drink until they blackout. As it sounds like from your description- she cannot just have one- she needs to not have any to make it into the next step of her life. She is lucky to have a friend like you to support her quest to get well. Keep encouraging her. She will need it. Tell her that you would be willing to go to an AA meeting or whatever else she wanted or needed to do to keep her straight.
ledgendary posted: 22 Jul at 11:05 am
the fact of it is if your friend has been let out of rehabilitation then that should of helped i understand your need to look after your friend as i have a very close friend who had a serious drug addictions but with a baby on the way thats all should be thinking of that child will need you more than anything and im not sayiing dont help your friend im saying that all your friend will need from you is support she will need you to tell her that your proud of her and you will help her by simply being her friend the desire to keep your friend safe and help her is so admirable and im sure she would love to hear that you care so much talk to her tell her all this tell her your concerns ask her what you can do if anything to help and support her but really with your baby coming he/she will be such a angel to you and it will be down to you to help them 24 hours a day for the rest of your life …..
hope i helped
good luck to you and your friend
and congrats on your baby
x