Negotiations underway for long distance visitation….?
My ex is in a transitional stage right now, no permanent home or job. He is staying with his parents 1000 miles away. I moved with my children about 7 months ago with my new husband. He has been in the military up until this point so hasn’t been involved in much of their lives.
We are trying to figure out arrangements for him to see the kids in the future. This is especially hard for me since I have been raising them solely for 6 years. They have never stayed with him alone overnight because he is always at his parents if he sees them. He has a history of violence, alcohol abuse, and gambling addiction. All of this can be proven. Should I continue negotiations? If so, what does everyone suggest? or, should I go back to court and try to get supervised visitation and not authorize him to leave the state with the children until he is rehabilitated?
I want the best for the kids and sometimes it is hard to know what the right thing is. I am not confident in his parenting abilities, but I don’t doubt the fact that he loves them.
Please give me any guidance or advice.
Lost posted: 31 Aug at 7:14 am
It would probably be best to leave him out of their lives, even though they are young they can still be influenced by the alcohol that will most likely be around at the time. If he has a history of violence he should definitely not be alone with them.
olderbutwiser posted: 31 Aug at 8:12 am
I wouldn’t push the issue very hard, but allow him to see the children, WITH supervision, when he makes arrangements to do so.In the meantime, love the kids and provide a good home environment for them with the new husband!